Company Summary
Selective Search Holdings, LLC is the nation’s leading luxury matchmaking firm, offering premium services tailored to successful individuals seeking long-term, committed relationships. Founded in 2000 by Barbie Adler, Selective Search has pioneered an elite approach that merges executive recruitment strategies with traditional matchmaking. With a success rate of 89%, over 4,000 successful matches, and 150+ years of combined matchmaking experience, the company has become the gold standard in personalized relationship services.
Operating from Chicago, IL, Selective Search serves clients internationally, focusing on major U.S. metropolitan areas and remote regions alike. The firm delivers a concierge-caliber experience, underpinned by a proprietary six-step matchmaking method called “Meet Your Future.”
Basic Business Information
- Business Name: Selective Search Holdings, LLC
- Industry: Consumer Services
- Category: Luxury Matchmaking
- Founding Year: 2000
- Ownership: Privately Held
- Key People:
- Barbie Adler, Founder & President
- Brad Blettner, Chief Executive Officer
- Number of Employees: 25–50
- Address: 35 E. Wacker Drive, Suite 725, Chicago, IL 60601, USA
- Phone: 312-396-1200 | Toll-Free: 866-592-1200
- Emails: [email protected], [email protected]
- Website: https://www.selectivesearch.com
Awards & Recognitions
- A+ Better Business Bureau Rating (since 2003)
- AskMen Dating Awards: Best Dating Apps and Services
- Global Business Leaders Magazine: 30 Innovative Companies Everyone Should Know
Social Media Links
- LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/selective-search-llc
- Instagram: instagram.com/selectivesearch
- Facebook: facebook.com/SelectiveSearch
- YouTube: youtube.com/@SelectiveSearch
Services & Offerings
Premium matchmaking: Tailored for successful individuals seeking long-term, committed relationships, Selective Search’s Premium Matchmaking service provides:
- A fee-based membership with concierge-level support
- A dedicated team including a matchmaker, researcher, and recruiter
- Personalized introductions
- High-touch guidance throughout the matchmaking process
Meet Your Future Process
- Intake — Understand personal values, lifestyle, and relationship goals
- Benchmarks — Create a customized Ideal Partner Profile
- Screening — Vetting of matches, including background and lifestyle checks
- Selection — Identification and evaluation of top candidates
- Meeting — Facilitation of personalized introductions
- Evaluation — Post-date feedback and continuous improvement
Complimentary Candidate Program
- 100% free and confidential
- Open to qualified individuals who may be matched with clients
- No guarantees of introductions, but inclusion in national search efforts
Differentiators (What Sets Us Apart)
- Not a dating service or app — Selective Search is fully offline and designed for privacy, intentionality, and long-term compatibility.
- Executive Search Model — Our process mirrors corporate executive recruiting, with a focus on rigor, fit, and discretion.
- Largest Private Network — Access to a vetted national database of over 285,000+ quality singles.
- Benchmarking with 225+ Criteria — Each client completes a proprietary Benchmark for Success®, evaluating 225+ data points covering emotional, lifestyle, and relationship indicators.
- Elite Screening & Vetting — Every match is personally vetted through interviews and compatibility assessments—not left to chance or algorithm.
- Discretion First — No last names, employers, or identifiable information is shared without consent. Our commitment to privacy is unmatched in the industry.
How Do Matchmaking Services Maintain Client Privacy?
Unlike dating apps and mass-market platforms that rely on algorithms, public profiles, and endless swiping, Selective Search offers a completely private, concierge-level approach to finding a relationship. Our clients value discretion, exclusivity, and a process that protects their time, reputation, and personal data.
As a luxury matchmaking firm trusted by executives, entrepreneurs, and high-profile individuals, client privacy is the cornerstone of our work. We maintain strict confidentiality through every step of our proprietary matchmaking process, including:
- No public profiles, ever. Your identity is never shared or searchable online.
- Human-led introductions. All matches are hand-curated by your dedicated Matchmaker, only shared when mutual compatibility is identified.
- Discreet communication. All outreach is personalized and private—no mass emails, no app notifications.
- Secure data protocols. Your personal information is safeguarded using strict internal controls.
Our clients don’t want to be part of a public dating pool—they want to meet vetted, relationship-ready individuals who have undergone the same level of screening and intentionality. With Selective Search, every introduction is intentional, every match is meaningful, and your privacy is always protected.
Whether you’re an executive, entrepreneur, or someone who simply values their privacy, you can rely on Selective Search to protect your personal information with the utmost care.
Ideal Client Profile
- Successful individuals who are serious about finding a committed relationship
- Often have limited time, high visibility, or reputational considerations
- Value efficiency, privacy, and curated experiences over casual dating or DIY approaches
- Understand the ROI of investing in their personal life the same way they would a major business decision
Service Area
International service coverage with a focus on the United States, including both metropolitan hubs and remote locations
Deliverables (Service Output)
- Curated Introductions: Matches tailored to personal criteria
- Personalized Team: Matchmaker, researcher, and recruiter assigned per client
- Ongoing Support: Includes relationship coaching, date planning, and post-date feedback
Timelines
Duration and number of introductions customized per engagement
Pricing & Payments
- Typical fee range: $50,000–$250,000
- Complex searches may reach $1M
- Payment Methods: ACH, credit card, check, and other methods
Compliance & Confidentiality
Strict privacy policies and identity protection. Selective Search never shares any of your information without prior consent.
Results & Testimonials
- 89% success rate
- 34% of clients find love on the first match
- Over 4,000 successful couples
- 150+ years of combined matchmaking expertise
Philosophy
- “Love is the only thing worth everything.” – Barbie Adler
- Our belief: Finding love deserves the same level of strategic rigor as hiring a CEO.
- We don’t take on every potential client—we only accept those we believe we can successfully match.
