Selective Search - Executive search meets personal matchmaking


It takes an exceptional firm to create such exceptional relationships


Founded in 2000, Selective Search is North America’s leading luxury matchmaking firm, where executive recruiting meets personal matchmaking®. Our staff of seasoned professionals, uses Fortune 500 executive recruitment techniques to help commitment-minded men and women in metropolitan areas and more remote locales find the love of their lives. Through our proven Meet Your Future® process, we filter potential candidates, handpicking candidates from the largest proprietary network of beautiful, quality Affiliates who best meet your exact criteria. And most importantly, it works. Eighty-seven percent of our Clients find love.

         Our Story          

Barbie Adler left a successful career as an executive recruiter to launch Selective Search, combining her experience recruiting top talent with her passion for helping extraordinary people find love.


Barbie is a national expert on dating and relationships. In addition to consulting on national dating-related television programs, Barbie has appeared in Forbes, Fortune, The Economist, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today and CNN. She is also an Ernst & Young Entrepreneur of the Year Award nominee and a Board Member of the Starlight Children’s Foundation, and the Entrepreneurs Organization (EO), a global peer-to-peer organization.

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         Our Culture          

Let's Just Say We're Picky About Who We Hire


Talented. Discerning. Intelligent. Empathetic. Passionate. We are very dedicated to finding you the love of your life. Our culture is part of what makes our corporate DNA different from other boutique matchmaking firms. We don’t just talk about being collaborative, we live it. From our executive board, throughout our entire organization, we work closely together to ensure success for our Clients and Affiliates. We have invaluable knowledge and experience that makes Selective Search® the industry leader.

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We also share the love with worthy causes. Each month, our team chooses a local and national charity for the Company to support through donations and, most of all, through our time. We find it’s a meaningful way to give back, foster team spirit, and inspire each other about causes we hold close to our hearts. We’re proud to have sponsored numerous events and charities throughout our history.

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From cultural events and galas, to the hottest clubs, restaurants, and vacation spots, Selective Search Scouts know exactly where to go to find the kind of beautiful, smart, quality singles our Clients are looking for. If you’d like to get paid helping us recruit other women who are just as extraordinary as you are, contact us today. Who knows, you may just help someone find the love of their life.

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