One on One Matchmaking Process
A proven six-step process marrying the best of executive search and matchmaking techniques. Selective Search is the professional matchmaking service that delivers results.
The Meet Your Future process was developed from an expansive study of relevant industries such as: executive search, psychology, traditional matchmaking, and sociology. We continue to evolve and develop our best-in-class methods. This innovative process has allowed Selective Search to become the industry leader with an 89% success rate and more than 4,000 happy couples.
The Process
Intake > Benchmarks > Screening > Selection > Meeting > Evaluation
STEP ONE
Intake
During our intake process, our matchmaking experts conduct a comprehensive client assessment — getting to know you on a deeper level than any profile or algorithm could capture. We take time to understand not just who you’re looking for, but who you are, what you value, and what a fulfilling relationship looks like for you.
STEP TWO
Benchmarks
We develop client-approved Benchmarks For Success®, which outlines the client’s specific search criteria. The benchmark phase explores over 225 key personal, professional, and social indicators desired in a partner. The purpose of the benchmarks is to focus the scope of the search, but not to constrain it. As relationship experts, Selective Search Matchmakers are trained to identify the compatibility of a couple beyond the obvious indicators.
STEP THREE
Screening
Selective Search Matchmakers and our research teams conduct personal interviews to screen each potential introduction. During screening, candidates undergo the same comprehensive assessment as our clients — and are only selected if they demonstrate strong compatibility. This rigorous vetting process is customized for each client’s search and goes well beyond what any online experience can replicate.
STEP FOUR
Selection
Before any introduction is made, your Matchmaker prepares a comprehensive profile so that your first date feels like anything but a first meeting. You’ll have the context and confidence to decide how you’d like to proceed — whether to move forward enthusiastically, ask questions, or continue refining the search.
STEP FIVE
Meeting
This is perhaps the most exciting phase, when our clients are introduced to their match and meet in person. A date provides a venue for each individual to discover the chemistry and enjoy exploring the connection and all they have in common.
We only introduce our clients to “must-meet” individuals who we believe have the greatest compatibility.
STEP SIX
Evaluation
After the date, both individuals independently consult with their Selective Search Matchmaker. The Matchmaker consults with both confidentially, as an objective third party. They encourage each party to discuss how the date went, and asks how they would like to proceed. This phase is especially helpful for both the client and the candidate. As an objective third party, the Matchmaker adds value in developing the right relationships, and providing valuable feedback in new relationships. Frequently, both parties learn a lot about themselves during this phase.