FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What is Selective Search?
Founded in 2000 by Barbie Adler, Selective Search is the nation’s leading luxury matchmaking firm, with clients and candidates throughout the country.
At 89%, Selective Search has the highest success rates in the industry; a product of the company’s proven Meet Your Future process which combines executive recruiting methodologies with traditional matchmaking intuition. We’ve built a proprietary network of quality candidates. Selective Search has accounted for over 4,000 (and counting) happy, committed couples.
Our goal is to connect you with the love of your life, while you’re busy living your life. Selective Search is the nation’s most trusted matchmaking firm.
Why do I need Selective Search?
Many successful individuals find they have everything they could wish for in life except for what matters most: the love of an extraordinary partner. Successful people like you work with countless industry experts in other aspects of your life: be it an attorney, a health and fitness coach, or a wealth advisor.
It’s time to allow Selective Search to find the love of your life; because you’re single and you don’t want to compromise, and you shouldn’t have to. Selective Search honors your preferences and doesn’t judge them. We don’t consider it “picky” to have preferences about age, religion, ethnicity, education, physical appearance, lifestyle, values, personality type, or whatever may be important to you. It’s not a question of if we can find “the one” — it’s simply when would you like to meet them.
How is Selective Search different from its competitors?
In one word, results.
As the nation’s leading boutique matchmaking firm since 2000, we have the highest success rate in the industry at 89%. To date, we are responsible for over 4,000 couples who are engaged or living together — because success means different things to our clients and candidates. Our clients often say the first date feels like the fifth – comfortable, confident, and aligned from the start. Selective Search also has a Better Business Bureau rating of A+.
What is the Meet Your Future process?
A proven, proprietary, six-step process marrying the best of executive search and matchmaking.
The Meet Your Future process was developed from an expansive study of relevant industries such as: executive search, psychology, traditional matchmaking, and sociology. We continue to evolve and develop our best-in-class methods.
What is the difference between a Selective Search ‘client’ and ‘candidate’?
Clients are men and women who retain our services through a premium fee-based membership. Much like executive search, pricing is dynamic and considers the scope and complexity of each individual search. Selective Search works with clients through a defined contract. Each contract is for a finite number of introductions over a defined period of time. Introductions may be with other clients, from our candidate network, or recruited specifically for you — because your Matchmaker is never limited to who is already in the system. Our concierge-caliber approach truly demonstrates that results are a function of investment. Selective Search clients don’t have trouble finding dates, they simply do not have the time to waste on dates without long-term potential.
Our Candidate program is designed for high-caliber men and women who are ready for a long-term, committed relationship, but are not yet ready to invest in a client membership. This program is 100% complimentary – no fees to join and no fees to match. Upon completing a confidential profile, candidates are eligible to be matched with Selective Search clients. However, as a candidate, our Matchmakers will only reach out to you when they have identified a two-way fit with one of our clients. While we may not have a match for you right away, we are always working with new clients who may be the perfect match for you. As a Selective Search candidate, you have nothing to lose and the love of your life to gain.
What does a search relationship with Selective Search cost?
The cost of matchmaking services can vary greatly. Much like executive recruitment, our contract pricing is dynamic and customized to the specific needs and complexity of each search. A firm executive will work with you to determine the appropriate scope.
A retained search typically ranges from $50,000 to $500,000, depending on scope and criteria. Highly complex searches may reach seven figures.
Unlike most dating apps and services — which are incentivized to keep members paying ongoing fees — Selective Search works with clients through a defined contract for a finite number of introductions over a defined period of time. You’re investing in a search, not subscribing to a service.
For a full breakdown of what your investment includes, visit our Matchmaker Pricing page.
What markets does Selective Search cater to?
Selective Search works with quality individuals across the country. Our clients and candidates live in major metropolitan areas as well as more remote locales. We also work with individuals who live abroad, and are looking to meet someone based in the United States.
A lot of thought is put in to pairing you with the right Matchmaker. Your Matchmaker will have a well cultivated knowledge base about the market you are searching within. This includes awareness of geography, local sensibilities, current events, as well as recommendations for restaurants and dates.
How will you protect my privacy?
Privacy is the foundation of our service. Our clients and candidates lead busy professional and public lives. We place a premium on privacy and discretion. We guarantee that your personal information will never be shared outside the scope of the search. Only Selective Search employees have access to your information and your consent is required before sharing personal contact information with a potential match.
Privacy Statement: Selective Search prides itself on its discreet, confidential relationships with clients and candidates. All personal information you share is kept in strict confidence and is for Selective Search’s internal use only. We do not collect or store your personal identifiable information on our website. We do not rent, share, sell member database mailing lists, or share information about visitors to third parties.
If you would like to review our full privacy policy you can access it here.
Do you screen the clients and candidates who join Selective Search?
We are equally as selective with our clients as we are with our candidates. Selective Search Matchmakers carefully screen and filter each individual before taking on a search or proceeding with a match.
Selective Search prides itself on being safe and thorough. All of our clients and their matches are personally screened, interviewed and have undergone our reputation analysis process. This is a thorough examination of lifestyle and may include: a background check, a social media analysis, identity verification, personal home and/or an office visit to verify authenticity as well as identity.
How do matchmaking services maintain client privacy?
Unlike dating apps and mass-market platforms, Selective Search is completely private and personalized. We don’t use public profiles. Instead, all introductions are hand-curated by a dedicated Matchmaker and shared only when there’s mutual compatibility.
Your personal information is protected by strict data security protocols, and all communication is handled with discretion. Our clients choose Selective Search because they want something more exclusive, intentional, and secure than app-based dating. Your privacy—and your time—is always protected.
When is the best time to start my search?
Tomorrow is a promise to no one. The benefits of being in love include being healthier, happier and more successful.
Spend your time falling in love, not searching for it.
When do I meet my Matchmaker?
Matchmakers are assigned to individuals once you’ve become a client.
The information gathered during the Benchmark phase of the Meet Your Future process will determine the most appropriate Matchmaker for your search.
A lot of thought is put in to pairing you with the right Matchmaker. Your Matchmaker will have a well cultivated knowledge about the market(s) you are searching within. This includes awareness of geography, local sensibilities, current events, as well as recommendations for restaurants and dates.
They will be your exclusive guide throughout the process.
How many potential matches do you have in my area?
Selective Search puts a priority on quality over quantity when it comes to introducing you to a match. Every search is unique, as are the preferences of your potential match. We are constantly working with new individuals every day, as well as updating their search preferences. Selective Search takes the time to get to know you and your search before taking you on as client. We don’t take on every prospective search. We want to ensure that we understand the type of person you are looking to meet. Selective Search not only draws from our private candidate network — we actively recruit. When the right person for your search isn’t already in our system, we go find them.
What do you share with me about my matches?
Your Matchmaker will present you with matches that meet the preferences established during your Benchmarks for Success. Before any introduction is made, you’ll receive a comprehensive profile — prepared personally by your Matchmaker — with enough context and insight that your first date feels like anything but a first meeting. You’ll have everything you need to decide how you’d like to proceed, whether that’s moving forward enthusiastically, asking questions, or continuing to refine your search.
It’s time to outsource your love life to the experts.
In Our Clients’ Words
